First Cup of Coffee – November 18, 2024

Instead of writing what you know? Write what you are. Other thoughts on revision, integrity, and a story about a guy I knew back in my peer counseling days in college who behaved badly toward women. Warning: abrupt stop. Instead of hitting pause, I hit the stop button, but I was done anyway, so… you just don’t get the usual sign-off today. But I will talk to you all on Friday. You all take care 💙

First Cup of Coffee with Jeffe Kennedy

First Cup of Coffee - November 18, 2024

November 18, 2024

Jeffe Kennedy

Instead of writing what you know? Write what you are. Other thoughts on revision, integrity, and a story about a guy I knew back in my peer counseling days in college who behaved badly toward women. Warning: abrupt stop. Instead of hitting pause, I hit the stop button, but I was done anyway, so... you just don't get the usual sign-off today. But I will talk to you all on Friday. You all take care 💙

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First Cup of Coffee – November 17, 2020

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First Cup of Coffee - November 17, 2020

November 17, 2020

Jeffe Kennedy

On the ups and downs of author careers and persevering through a sometimes difficult business. Also on owning your process - but also being honest with yourself and tips on tweaking to make it better.

If you missed yesterday's podcast, it's here (https://blog.jeffekennedy.com/2020/11/16/first-cup-of-coffee-november-16-2020/).

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First Cup of Coffee – July 17, 2020

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First Cup of Coffee - July 17, 2020

July 17, 2020

Jeffe Kennedy

I'm happy to have the heron fountain back in action. Also about being generous and dealing with a community of writers. 

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First Cup of Coffee – July 5, 2019

 

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First Cup of Coffee - July 5, 2019

July 05, 2019

Jeffe Kennedy

Today is the 1 year anniversary of this podcast! Being very on-brand, I ramble about the last year, how the podcast has focused (and not) on being a career author, and also about Martha Wells' Murderbot Diaries, and the new movie Plus One. 

This is the article I mention: https://medium.com/neurotrack/menopause-and-alzheimers-1c455f29fe16 

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Such a Lonely Word

People talk a lot about honesty and wanting it.

I’m persuaded to think that they’re lying about this.

Perhaps they lie only to themselves and, since that’s as human as pretending that alcohol has no calories, it’s commonplace. Oh wait. That’s the same thing.

At any rate, a friend of mine from long ago posted on Facebook that a girl he liked who said she “wasn’t dating” turned out just not to be dating him. He lamented that he hadn’t learned this line in 40 years. I attempted to defend my gender saying that we don’t want to hurt a guy’s feelings with the honest answer, which could be “ick.” Another commenter said he’d want the honest “ick” so he could learn what to improve on.

The thing is, I think he got the honest “ick” to begin with and didn’t want to hear it.

There’s “ick” on many levels in life, from the color of a shirt, to the taste of avocados, to your best friend’s new boyfriend. And often there’s absolutely no reason for it. Maybe you got sick on bad avocadoes once, maybe it’s just a texture thing. Maybe you secretly think it makes you interesting not to eat avocadoes, gallantly passing on the tableside guacamole with a wry smile.

I’m not sure there really is an honest reason for rejection.

Writers lament that agents and editors don’t give good reasons for rejections. There’s the nearly universal “full client list,” which is really not far off the “I’m not dating right now” response. If the perfect manuscript came along, of course there would be room. More often you get the “not for me,” which is the nicest way they’ve found for saying “ick.” Just I don’t like avocadoes ick, not I wouldn’t rep you if you were the last author on the planet ick.

One hopes, anyway.

That’s the beauty of a little fudging, a gentle dishonesty: you don’t have to elucidate the level of ick. Believe me, I’ve been rejected, too, both as a writer and as a female. The honesty of some of those male rejections left me bruised for years. I didn’t need to know how deep the ick ran.

Because, in the end, it didn’t matter. “Not for me” is really the most honest explanation there is.

(And no, I haven’t heard back from the agent yet. Here I am, sitting by the phone, hoping she meant it when she said she’d call…)