Writing Believable Scenes

We had big fun at Beastly Books yesterday celebrating FaRoFeb! The delightful Vela Roth came up from El Paso, and A.K. Mulford and A.J. Lancaster joined us online from down under. The panel was also broadcast on Instagram Live and you can find a recording of it on the FaRoFeb Instagram account.

Our topic at the SFF Seven this week is “How do you make your love scenes believable?”

By “love,” I assume the asker means sex – though how to make the confessional of heartfelt love feel earned and not pasted on or saccharine is an interesting question. But, in truth, the answer to both, or even really ALL scenes – love, sex, fight, daily conversation – believable is to ground them in character.

This is true whether you are a plot-driven or character-driven writer. Stories are about the emotions of the people in them – what they want, what they can’t have, what drives them to chase what they want anyway. So, a fight scene is never just about the choreography and who wins or loses. It’s about what that win or loss MEANS to the characters, what impact their injuries might have on them beyond the physical.

Likewise, a sex scene is never just about tabs and slots fitting together. It’s about emotional intimacy, what the sexual interlude means to the characters. It has nothing to do with whether or not multiple orgasms are believable or making first-time encounters awkward or including realistic body noises and accidental passing of fluids and gases. Those things might factor in if they relate to the characters’ emotional lives, but by themselves, they don’t change anything, one way or the other.

Because believability comes from emotional truth, regardless of everything else.

 

First Cup of Coffee – October 4, 2022

A random beauty tip today, plus I’m talking about sex scenes in books, how they shouldn’t be gratuitous, but also a new insight into why male and female (caveat on this binary) readers view them differently.

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First Cup of Coffee - October 4, 2022

October 04, 2022

Jeffe Kennedy

A random beauty tip today, plus I'm talking about sex scenes in books, how they shouldn't be gratuitous, but also a new insight into why male and female (caveat on this binary) readers view them differently.

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First Cup of Coffee – January 7, 2022

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First Cup of Coffee - January 7, 2022

January 07, 2022

Jeffe Kennedy

Happy Friday! I'm talking about the beauty of in-person conversations and how that simply can't be replicated online. Also a bit about fight scenes vs. sex scenes, and whether art can be objectively good or bad.

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First Cup of Coffee – November 2, 2021

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First Cup of Coffee - November 2, 2021

November 02, 2021

Jeffe Kennedy

An epiphany I had on why some people might see fights scenes and sex scenes as similar. Also a rant on notifications and why I believe we should assiduously fight them and a bit about the Brittany Murphy documentary.

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First Cup of Coffee – November 1, 2021

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First Cup of Coffee - November 1, 2021

November 01, 2021

Jeffe Kennedy

Upon request, a discussion of fight scenes (including battle scenes), why I think they're nothing like sex scenes, how the character transformation is totally different, and how I learned to write them anyway. 

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First Cup of Coffee – September 13, 2021

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First Cup of Coffee - September 13, 2021

September 13, 2021

Jeffe Kennedy

How to put action in action scenes. How some authors like to write sex scenes and others action scenes, but rarely both and why. I'm also offering advice on how to get past writing the thing you don't like to write.

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First Cup of Coffee – March 23, 2021

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First Cup of Coffee - March 23, 2021

March 23, 2021

Jeffe Kennedy

On good advice and bad for writing sex scenes, books and movies I recommend for research, along with a request for your recs! Also how Grace Draven and I prove, yet again, that we really are Wondertwins.

Some that I mention:
Exit to Eden by Anne Rampling
Delta of Venus by Anais Nin
In the Cut
9 1/2 Weeks
The Big Easy
The Turning Point

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First Cup of Coffee – September 25, 2020

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First Cup of Coffee - September 25, 2020

September 25, 2020

Jeffe Kennedy

A bit of a rant today on the use of the term "Clean" in reference to books - and sex in general - and how some authors produce two versions of a book, one "clean" and one with sex.

Also a shoutout today to Smart Podcast, Trashy Books (https://smartbitchestrashybooks.com/podcast/)! (I said it wrong in the show - sorry!)

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First Cup of Coffee – March 3, 2020

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First Cup of Coffee - March 3, 2020

March 03, 2020

Jeffe Kennedy

A report on our CostCo #prepping venture, thoughts on COVID-19, and how to cope.

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First Cup of Coffee – August 9, 2019

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First Cup of Coffee - August 9, 2019

August 09, 2019

Jeffe Kennedy

More musings today on YA vs adult fantasy, with a bit of feedback from Emily Mah and L. Penelope. Also musings on book brain, how to approach a convoluted revision, and why I like on-the-page sex scenes. 

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