What to Do When You’re Accidentally Invited to a Party

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAI recently changed my laptop background to this pic I took in Virgin Gorda. I might have to take it down again, because it’s making me all kinds of wistful.

The other night, I had a few neighbor gals over for wine and snacks. I know for a lot of you out there, this is a no-brainer thing, right? Some of you have guests over all the time, willy-nilly, tra-la tra-lay. Yeah, I know about you people. I used to be like you.

These days, though, having people over means cleaning the house, which I no longer pay someone ELSE to do. Those were happy days. It means acquiring snacky food that I no longer keep around the house and also cleaning MYSELF up. Yes – I confess that, working from home and not seeing anyone but David or people at the gym, I am not company-ready a great deal of the time.

So, when the day came, by lunchtime I bitterly regretted that I’d invited these people to my house. I may have even contemplated calling them and saying I was sick. If I’d had a job outside the house, I would have gotten everything done the night before, then whizzed home from work, in my cute work outfit with my hair and make-up already done, thrown some snacks onto platters and been done.

But no.

Instead I had to halt the day job and go to the store, vacuum and, gasp, shower and assemble myself. I griped to David that probably no one would come and then all that effort would be WASTED. He says, well, we can always have a party together.

I tactfully did not point out that he’s blown his gig by loving me without make-up and a cute outfit.

Still and all, people came and I had fun. It was totally worth it and now I feel all bubbly and optimistic that I could muster to do this Much More Often. An ambition I’ll likely come to regret in the future when I have guests LOOMING again.

For now, however, I’ve paid several people back for previous hospitality and created hostess-debt in a few others. So they get to muster the effort now and have us over, which is always preferable. I’m always happy to drink someone else’s wine and have at their snacks. Totally worth make-up for that. (Maybe someone should tip-off David.)

In fact, David and I once  went to a party we were accidentally invited to.

No, really. I got this email invitation to “Jennifer,” which is a sure sign that the person doesn’t actually know me. With the possible exception of IRS agents and they, notably, never invite me to parties. Especially not Halloween costume parties where we’re encouraged to come as our alter-egos. Fun, right?

But I totally didn’t know the people who invited us. Neither did David. I asked around and none of my friends knew them either. Finally I found one couple that we occasionally socialized with – neighbors a few blocks away, he was a nonfiction writer I’d been on panels with and she and I had intersected in various social groups – who had also been invited. They agreed that the people having the party couldn’t possibly know us.

I suspect it was the “Jennifer” syndrome. See there are so damn many of us that the email autofill function is like a curse for anyone who knows more than one Jennifer. Which is everybody, right? It’s like that movie “Jennifer 5” or some such from the 80s where she discovers she’s a clone. It’s annoying, but there’s also a certain solidarity in our Jenniferness.

So, yes – we totally went to the party.

And I asked the host and hostess if they meant to invite us. This may have been complicated by the fact that I was wearing thick faerie queen makeup and David was dressed up as an early-days Jim Morrison. We finally established that, no, we didn’t know each other.

They let us stay, however, and the party really did rock. Like I always suspect the parties I’m not invited to do.

I reciprocated, too – by inviting them to our annual Christmas party. I even wrote on the invitation that we were the people they didn’t know, who’d crashed their Halloween party.

They didn’t come. Can you believe it?

Totally worth the make-up though.

10 Replies to “What to Do When You’re Accidentally Invited to a Party”

  1. hahahahh. LOVE that story! And yeah, I’m like you. We used to entertain a lot and now I see it as a chore. My husband gets all wiggy for days about the state of cleanliness of the house. If I put down a sweater on Monday where it doesn’t belong, he will make a point of telling me that we have people coming over on Friday, then I have to say, “I have FOUR days to move it, dude.” He stresses me out!

  2. LOL. It’s so true that the biggest win of entertaining monthly(ish)is that it ensures the house doesn’t devolve into a hazmat zone.

  3. “So, when the day came, by lunchtime I bitterly regretted that I’d invited these people to my house. I may have even contemplated calling them and saying I was sick.” This is SO me. Like you, I always have a good time when all is said and done. I wonder how my friend down the block entertains so easily. She’s got a full-time job and her house is always clean, even when she’s not expecting company. I know she has a cleaning service, but they don’t come EVERY FRICKIN’ DAY. Yes, I know that writing’s a full-time job, but I’m here all day long. Surely I could get something else done.

  4. OMG, it’s been so long since I had people over, I wouldn’t know what to do. And now that we’ve moved, I’m even further away from other humans. I don’t see any kind of social gathering in my near future. (hehe, cool.)

    See there, my hermit tendencies are growing…

    Great story, though, Jeffe. I would’ve come to your Christmas party if you crashed my Halloween one. (I mean, if I was still the kind of person who went to parties or threw parties.)

    1. LOL – you and I are sisters under the skin, B.E. I won’t drop by your unkempt house, if only because I’m not fond of ticks. :-p

    1. Right? I was disappointed that they didn’t come. They *may* have thought we were weird… Can’t imagine why. And yes – socializing MAKES you clean!

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